‘It really sucks at times’: the loneliness of the long-distance marriage

We expect married couples to live together, once they have vowed to love one another “till death do us part”. Yet long-distance relationships are on the rise. In the US, the 2017 census found there had been a 44% increase in married couples living apart since 2000, bringing the total to almost 4 million people. So how do these marriages work, especially given that many involve months spent in different time zones?

“I don’t have a choice of who I fall in love with. She’s the perfect person; it just happens that she lives thousands of miles away,” says theatre director Jordan Murphy, 27, about his New York-based wife, dancer Mariel Latourneau. The pair met in 2015 while working on a production of the musical Honk! in upstate New York and, despite both being in other relationships, kept in touch when Murphy returned to the UK. “I fell in love with her very quickly,” says Murphy. Within three months of returning to London, he had broken up with his partner, flown out to spend Christmas with Latourneau, and they had decided to be together.

Read the feature in the Guardian.

[This piece was published on 08/07/19]